Metalling Hearts
The Fiercer the man, the Fiercer the love
This last Friday I got a chance to sit down and talk with Dez Fafara from Devildriver. His vocals were first heard in Coal Chamber. But since then He has become the voice of Devildriver, literally. Devildriver is a groove-metal band with rock tendencies that is know worldwide. If I haven't put it in enough words already, this tattooed, growling, pierced man is in the hierarchy of the metal world. It was to my surprise that this brutal man is just as fierce in regards to music as he is to one other thing in life. From a source where you'd least expect, I got the best insight and advice for relationships from one of the most well known tough guys in metal. 
"She cast a spell on me"
Dez's amore is the lovely Anahstasia, can be seen on the cover of Coal Chamber's 2nd Album, Chamber Music. As you can see Dez is proud to show off his beau and when speaking in regards to her, his voice would become softer and a comforting smile would begin to form in replace of the words he would speak. "She cast a spell on me" Says Fafara, " I knew right after seeing her for the first time that she was the one, this was it." The first time he had met her, he went to her and proclaimed his feelings, and she smiled, giving him her number and then retreating. " I called her 17 times" Laughs Fafara, this of course being only after receiving her number. His music painted them a soundtrack, and true love bound their hearts together. They've only fought 2 times throughout their whole relationship, marriage, and building of their family. This leaves me to ask, how can someone, regardless of musical incline, manage to maintain or even grasp a romance as fairytale-esk as that of Anahstasia and Dez? " You have to be yourself and embrace that. Embrace who you are, what energy you hold, because when you are true to yourself, you'll never be false to others." So many times people lie in relationships, even about the smallest things such as, hiding calls from others, and even masking how they feel. This couple lays everything out on the table, and has that trust to know they their hearts will be guarded despite what elements may come. I feel that it really is trust and truth that can make or break a relationship. If you are to be something else just to 'get' your lover's approval, they are only in love with the character you made for them. It's through Dez and Anahstasia's ability to be open and always truthful to each other that they beat the odds of love's expectations, especially with divorce rates increasing. Regardless, what these two have is something that we should aspire to create and maintain in our own lives. All of the ladies can "ugh" and growl in jealousy of the spark between these too, but perhaps following these ideals can help us create our happy endings. Where the lion lays down with the lamb, so does the heart of the beautiful red head rest with the heart of the metalhead. The fiercer the man, the fiercer the love.
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